Rafe was about 5-6 hours old and Greg's sisters came to visit at the hospital and see the new baby. His sister Laura says "He has webbed toes." Huh, I hadn't noticed. Some mother I am. But sure enough one set on both feet. I guess it's not the most uncommon. It says maybe 1 out of every 2000-2,500 babies are born with webbed toes. And many don't do a thing about it and leave them, and many do have them separated. Truthfully, my first thought was to definitely have them separated by surgery. Then as we started looking into it and realized what it would entail, I started second guessing it.
It was no easy decision we took lightly. In the end it could have been a risk if we left them because his right foot is attached clear up to the start of the toe nail. The left one was below the top joint even. But it could certainly cause problems as he grows. If one toe grows longer or faster than the others it could be painful and require surgery when he is a boy, teenager, or older. But one other downer was that they would have to take a skin graft from his groin or hip area to fill in the gaps from the zigzag incision on the toes. So he would have a little straight scar there too.
And the other factor was appearance. As parents we don't want our children to be teased or feel self conscious about themselves. I can imagine him not ever wanting to wear sandals, hang out in bare feet, or who knows what else? Maybe it wouldn't ever bother him, maybe it would? I did my research, read about all kinds of people, I talked with people. It seems it's like 50/50. More people are doing surgery now then before. Some hated it and had it fixed when they turned 18. Others always wished they'd fixed them, others kept their webbed toes and thought it was a unique feature and cute. So what do we do?
If we were to do it, the best time would be before he crawls or starts walking of course. And we met our insurance deductible and it would cost us nothing this year. I prayed about it as well. In the end I decided to go ahead and do it. If it were me I know I would want it.
Jax came with me last summer to a consult appointment and noticed Rafe's toes for the first time and immediately said "He has turtle toes!" And now Jax won't touch his feet. That was one small example of how his toes were not normal. I hope I don't offend anyone. But our decision was hopefully to help our son with his abnormality to be made normal. His endearing little webbed toes are now not webbed. And I will forever think his little feet are always endearing.
For months ahead, the only day we could schedule surgery was on Halloween day. Really?! Here is Rafe with Greg just before they came to take him back for surgery. For not eating for 13 hours Rafe was surprisingly calm and mellow before. I thought all morning we'd be dealing with a fussy baby. Boy was I wrong. I took his binky so they wouldn't lose it and we walked part way to the O.R. area and passed him off to the Dr. Then Greg I and went and waited, had lunch, and waited some more. It was scheduled for an hour and a half. So after 2 hours we checked to see how things were going. The Dr. said it just took longer and he had to be very meticulous with everything and the dressings/bandages.

Above is little Rafe in the Recovery. He was all drugged up and out of it. No smiles. But he chugged some apple juice. He'd never had it before. So after an hour to make sure he could keep the meds down we were able to go home. My parents watched the other 3 boys at home and took them to and from school and spent the day at our house. Thank you so much to them!Halloween night, we had dinner and quickly got the boys in costumes and went trick-or-treating. I came back and below is little Rafe rolling around playing on the floor, you'd never know he had surgery that day. Oh except the big 'ol bandages on his legs. And the next morning wearing mommy's socks and Bodie's shorts he is still eager to play.
We were good and keeping up on his pain meds, Tylenol with Codeine and alternation with Motrin. He had his fussy moments but I think he was doing quite well considering. Probably too well, by Wednesday morning I noticed his right bandage was lower and his foot wasn't really in the bottom anymore. Ah! I quickly called the surgeon. In the hospital the plastic surgeon said it's best to NOT touch the foot and keep it dry and wrapped for 2 full weeks. And by day 2 it was coming off?! He was in surgery but said to go ahead and "re-wrap" the outer 2 layers of the dressing. But to leave the yellow layer alone! Ok, I called for some help to come over in the middle of the day to "assist me". Thanks to Trisha, but as I was unwrapping I noticed nothing on his foot and the yellow dressing had come off as well. I panicked. I cried, freaked out. Greg was out of town all week (nice timing), I was alone dealing with life and a recovering baby. I really wanted the plastic surgeon to see the toes and make sure it was still ok. Who knows, maybe some stitches came out? Or the skin graft got messed up? Something could have stuck to the dressing? And finally by 8pm that night, (thanks again to my mom& dad watching the other boys) I was able to meet up with one of the surgeons and he checked it out and completely re-wrapped both feet. The left foot wrapping was starting to come off too. So not ideal that the precious yellow bandage came off, but he said it should all be fine.
And the second wraps we made sure he did the bandage up over the knees. And then we taped it. It's not the cute little green dinosaurs this time. I make sure to keep socks on. (Greg's ankle socks) And he is wearing Bodie's pants. As you see in the pictures below. So as he kicks and plays, he can rub those big pants and the socks will help keep the bandages dry and clean. It will be a long 2 weeks.

The hardest part is keeping Rafe happy and entertained. We can't really use some of his little toys because of his dangling feet, or his legs won't fit because of the bandages, etc. And I'm sure he hates all the bandages and healing. I keep thinking he must itch. Ugh.
I will take pictures of the "after surgery" and compare I'm sure.